Hi there,
Since silicone is an insulator, you would want to extend the touch points/copper plates. I'm not sure on the exact material specs involved that might answer how much copper, but something analog (like a push button) might work better than scraping the insulation on the PCB and adding more copper.
Can you tell me more about what you are making? I may have some better recommendations on how you can accomplish your goals.
I'll add that I've applied a 1/8" sheet of acrylic to the cap touch pads directly with some double-sided tape and had luck with being able to detect a touch. Have you tested the silicone layer? Can you do a thinner layer? What all have you tested so far?
Cheers,
Réna